Tag: shame

How Kelloggs Manipulates Your Shame

You’re not defined by your weight! You’re so much more than a number! Imagine getting on that scale and seeing “Joy” and “Spirit” and “Drive” instead of your weight. Doesn’t that celebrate the wonderful person you are? I’ve just described a Kelloggs commercial. If you’ve seen it, would you find yourself thinking “Wow, isn’t this …

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Weight & Fat: Contradictions in Correctness

I love the First Lady. I really do. But I read an interview in which she joins in doing something that I think creates an aspect of denial to the difficulty some of us endure in managing our weight. It’s a contradiction with roots in political correctness. In an interview in Women’s Health magazine, Michelle …

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When Do You Admit Weight Denial?

All of us who deal with a significant weight problem spend time in a place I’ve identified as between points of support and resistance. These are terms I’ve borrowed from the trading world. When the market keeps returning to a particular point without breaking out past it, that’s called support to the downside and resistance …

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The Scourge that is “Biggest Loser”

Why mince words? “Biggest Loser” is one of the most offensive television shows of all time. It perpetuates truly hateful paradigms in the guise of a sickening insistence that the show “is changing lives.” I could say that the most disgusting scenes are when the trainers are humiliating the contestants and they do that in so many …

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After Forgiveness Must Come the Truth of Weight Management

In my last post I discussed why you can let go of shame and blame and forgive yourself for being fat, for ever having been fat, for hating being fat, for remaining fat, for struggling not to be fat. It is your BodyTruth. For some of us, food will wrap itself around everything that ever …

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The First Step: Forgive Yourself for Being Fat

What’s the first step to start taking control of a serious weight problem? Figure out what you’re going to eat? Make an exercise plan? That’s the simple answer. There’s something else you need to do and I think it’s the key. Forgive yourself for being fat. Last week I wrote about how often I find …

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Obesogenicity & Broken Things: Why America Won’t Solve the Obesity Problem

I learned new words yesterday. Obesogenicity An “obesogenic environment” supports gaining weight by promoting indulgent overeating. It’s the opposite of a “leptogenic” environment which would promote leanness or weight loss. An environment’s obesogencity can be measured by the use of ANGELO, the ANalysis Grid for Environments Linked to Obesity. Whatever ANGELO’s rating system is, I think the entire United …

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When Talking About Weight Loss Keeps You From Accomplishing It

As we near the end of the year, I have been looking back at some Ladies in Weighting. In my book, I write about the women who start blogs to document their weight loss attempts. The blogs go on, often for years and years, but the weight loss does not. Oh there are plenty of …

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It’s Time to Forgive Yourself for Your Weight and Move Forward

This time of year tends to stir up memories, reminding people of events and experiences in their past, particularly those that involve treatment by family members. This week I came upon three blog posts that were essentially laundry lists of pain. Bloggers wrote out in excruciating detail the torment they’ve endured at the hands of abusers, …

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How Have Experiences Shaped the Way You Feel about Your Weight?

Last night I attended a film screening in a space with vintage theater seats that must have come from one of Chicago’s former movie palaces. Seats from that era are smaller than the seats we’re used to today, even the plain flip down stadium-style chairs you might find in some older movie theaters. A very large woman …

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