It’s quite common for people who are flush with the heady excitement of a recent weight loss to want to spread their freshly-sworn religion. They’re barely used to fitting in armed chairs with their legs crossed and they’re ready to start writing books and announcing their life coach services. Through the years I’ve come upon many stories of men in particular who go crazy on the exercise for a few months. They add some biceps and drop some huge amount of weight. Guys can do that sort of thing. They flaunt their new physique for awhile until they remember how much they like beer and cheeseburgers.
I got an email today from a guy who’s pitching a “step by step” program with his spankin’ new website. He’s proven it works! He lost 100lbs in 106 days. And he’s ready to teach YOU how to get the weight off and keep it off, “forever.” Yes, he does say forever. Hey, he’s kept the weight off since last October so there ya go. And until I called him on it, his website was announcing that the reason people failed at weight loss was “severe lack of motivation.” Take that, you fat lazy slug!
I googled “step by step weight loss” and got 29,000,000 results. For people like us who have been fighting with our bodies all our lives, diets themselves are a cliché. Being pitched the latest sure-fire step by step program is a cliché. Being told to get motivated and inspired and write down our goals is a cliché. Being told to get off your butt and get moving is a cliché. Hearing about somebody’s great new recently slimmed-down success story is a cliché. And it’s all really, really annoying.
When you deal with a weight problem all your life, it’s rarely off your mind. A day does not go by that you are not acutely aware of how you’d like your life to change. And you know only too well what everybody thinks you should be doing and all the “step by step” programs that worked for somebody else that they’re sure would work for you. If only you’d program your mind for success. Or something like that.
One of the primary themes I was thinking of when I started working on my book is the reality that worrying about your weight gets exhausting. When you fail over and over, you can start to wish there was some way you could give up. If you’re like me, there was never a time in your life when you were a “normal” weight so you can’t even think of yourself in that way. Weight loss can seem impossible when the struggle wears you down. The last thing you want to hear is another cliché.
We are bombarded with so much “information” and marketing that shutting it all out and turning your entire focus inward can feel fresh and different. The answers you need will not come from somebody’s “step by step program.” They’ll come from your mind and body. That’s what you have to start listening to.